How to Settle a Broken Relationship
Relationship trouble can happen to anyone. You may feel sad, angry, depressed, or confused. No matter how bad things seem or how much you want to run away from the problem, if you love this person — deal with it and try to settle your differences.
Is your relationship with your partner at risk of breaking up? This article will provide you with valuable information on how to handle a broken relationship.
- What were the circumstances?
- How did you feel about it at the time?
- How did your friend feel about it at the time?
Try to decide how you feel about each other.
- Choose your words carefully.
- Be honest, but don’t blame each other.
- Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.
- Don’t try to force the other person to do something they don’t want to do (or vice versa).
If you deal with a direct approach, talk right away.
- If you tell them that you want to talk, don’t wait too long, and don’t let your emotions get in the way of talking.
- Be honest and don’t be afraid to apologize.
Analyze your mistakes and talk about them in the future.
Now that you have talked about the mistakes that have been made, it is time to analyze what went wrong in your relationship. Once again, honesty is important here. It may be hard for you to admit but look at how this has affected your friendship and ask yourself if it was really worth it. If it wasn’t, ask yourself why you did it and try to avoid making those same mistakes again in the future.
Now that both parties are aware of their own faults as well as those of their friends, they can begin working on improving any problems that still exist between them. This step involves self-reflection by each person involved so they can see where things went wrong and how they can fix them going forward until they reach a point where things are back on track with no lingering issues between them or their friend(s).
Get some support.
- Talk to a friend or family member. If you’re feeling alone and don’t know where to turn, talk to someone you trust. Though this may sound obvious, it’s important not to isolate yourself; talking with others can help you feel less alone and make sure that your needs are being met.
- Talk to a therapist or counselor. If you have trouble trusting others, consider seeing a therapist or counselor in order to work through your feelings of mistrust and isolation while building new coping skills (such as self-compassion).
- Talk with a religious leader—preferably one who was present during the separation process itself (if possible). Religious leaders are often highly trained in conflict resolution; they can help guide both parties toward reconciliation by facilitating communication between them while maintaining neutrality on sticky issues such as child custody arrangements, property division agreements, and other disputes arising from divorce proceedings etcetera. In addition, religious leaders often maintain close ties with members within their congregation so if need be they can also provide references for mental health professionals who specialize in situations like yours.”
Try to be spontaneous and do unexpected things that will make your partner happy.
- Try to be more understanding
- Try to be more patient
- Try to be more flexible
- Try to be more tolerant
- Try to be more open and honest with each other, especially about what’s bothering you, so that you can address those issues instead of letting them build up over time into resentment and anger that builds into a huge blowout argument (this is key).
Talk it out.
If you and your partner still have a good relationship, then you can try to talk it out. Tell each other how you feel and what the future should look like for both of you. Talk about what has happened in the past, how that affects your future relationship, and what steps need to be taken to make things better again. If possible, both of you should apologize for anything that might have hurt or upset each other in this process.
Take a break.
It’s important to give each other space and not contact one another during this time. If you continue to try and convince your partner that you are right, it will only cause more problems.
Be respectful of yourself and your partner.
Be kind, but don’t put up with any abuse or mistreatment from either party! If your partner is acting in an aggressive manner toward you physically or emotionally, then do not tolerate it! You need to stand up for yourself so that they can see how serious the situation has become and hopefully change their ways before things get worse than they already are in the relationship between both parties involved in this breakup which was previously broken apart due to disagreements between them both (you included).
Think about what you want and don’t want in the future.
You’ll want to consider what you want and don’t want in the future. You might believe that your friend is the perfect person for you, but if they’re not ready for a commitment, it may be difficult for them to recognize their feelings for you. If this is the case, then waiting until they’re ready won’t help your relationship.
If they do have feelings for you but lack clarity about them (or don’t realize how strong those feelings are), then it could take some time before they come around and realize what they’re missing out on by being apart from each other.
On the other hand, if your friend does reciprocate and wants to be with you—but moving forward means breaking off ties with some other important people in their lives—then that’s something else entirely: It requires careful consideration because there will definitely be consequences either way!
Do something that makes you feel better.
If a toxic relationship is breaking your heart, then it’s time to start healing. One of the most important things you can do when it comes to recovering from a broken relationship is to take care of yourself. You’ll need energy and positivity in order to heal, so how do you get there? The first step is doing something physical and making yourself happy! Go for a walk or run outside; hit the gym; take up yoga; pick up an instrument or paint set—whatever brings you joy will help you move on from this difficult time in your life.
Get away from it all.
You probably need to take some time away from the situation before you can come up with a solution. The best way to do this is by getting out of town for a few days or even weeks, but if that’s not possible (or affordable), consider taking a long walk outside and leaving your phone behind so you don’t get interrupted.
Try to relax as much as possible and focus on doing something that will make you feel better about yourself and your life—even if that means watching cat videos on YouTube!
It’s not easy, but it’s possible to feel better.
- Be honest with yourself.
- Forgive yourself.
- Accept the fact that you may not be able to reconcile with your friend.
A good place to start is by making a plan for the future with your friend—this can help you feel better, even if it’s just a vague idea of what you’d like to do together in the future (like getting lunch).
Apologize to your friend.
- Apologize for hurting them and acknowledge that you were wrong.
- Explain how you feel about what happened, but don’t give excuses or place blame on them.
- Be honest about why you did it in the first place, even if it’s embarrassing or painful for both of you (e.g., “I felt jealous because [reason].
It can help if he/she tries to understand why he/she feels hurt by your actions instead of just being defensive about it all the time.
Recognize that your friend may not want to reconcile.
If you have hurt your friend deeply, they may not be ready to forgive you. If this is the case, don’t pressure them. If they haven’t forgiven you yet and are still angry, then chances are that reconciliation isn’t in their future.
Give your friend some space after you apologize.
After you apologize, give your friend some space. He or she may need some time to process what you said. If they don’t respond right away, that’s okay! Don’t get discouraged if they don’t respond at all—it’s okay if they want to think about it first before responding. In fact, pressuring your friend into saying something immediately might result in them feeling even more hurt by what happened and less willing to forgive you.
It’s also important not to apologize multiple times; it can make it seem like you’re only trying again because the last apology didn’t work out for you, which isn’t fair for either party involved in the situation. Finally, never give up on your friendship—even if things seem over between the two of you now, there’s always a chance that things could be patched up later on down the line (as long as both parties are willing).
Forgive yourself for hurting your friend.
Forgiving yourself for hurting your friend is essential. If you don’t forgive yourself, you’ll continue to let the guilt of what you did consume you, and it will be nearly impossible for any good to come of this situation. When we are plagued by feelings of guilt, we think less clearly and make more mistakes. The longer we allow ourselves to feel guilty, the harder it is to break out of that negative mindset and get back on track with our lives—especially if those negative feelings are directed at someone else!
Don’t beat yourself up over your mistake; instead, acknowledge that it happened and move forward from there. Nobody’s perfect—and even if they were, sometimes people make mistakes! We’re all human after all; no one expects perfection from anyone else either (except maybe in some Hollywood movies…).
Accept that your relationship may change.
- Accept that your relationship may change, but not in a bad way.
- It will still be the same friendship and you will still have the same feelings for each other.
- You can talk about things you used to talk about, like movies and music, just as much as before.
Make a plan for the future with your friend.
Making a plan for the future with your friend will help you both feel more positive about the outcome.
- Be prepared for a different outcome. Although it’s possible that your friend will accept what you’re saying and want to make amends, you should also be prepared for a different outcome. If your friend doesn’t want to talk, don’t push them into doing so; let it go and revisit it later on if necessary.
- Make sure you are ready before speaking with them about how to move forward in the friendship. Make sure that all other aspects of your relationship are resolved, whether those are personal or professional issues (e-mail accounts should have been closed down). Once everything else is squared away, then start talking about what happened between you two and why things went wrong in order to figure out how they can be fixed moving forward (if they can). This conversation needs to take place face-to-face, not via phone call or text message; otherwise, there may be too much room left open for misinterpretation of intent due simply because there isn’t enough context provided when communicating over another medium such as those listed above which makes understanding difficult even though we all know what our intentions were when sending them out there!
You can try to reconcile with someone you have hurt but always be prepared for a different outcome.
You can try to reconcile with someone you have hurt but always be prepared for a different outcome.
The one thing everyone shares in common when they are hurting is that they want to feel healing and closure. They need the reassurance that they can move on and live their lives with peace of mind.
Even if your intention was not malicious or even conscious, it doesn’t mean the person will be able to forgive you easily or at all. You may end up losing something valuable and important for them because of your actions or words; this is what happens when someone’s trust has been shattered by another person who should have loved them unconditionally instead of abusing their power over them out of jealousy or selfishness (or any other reason).
We hope some of this point has helped you, but above all your happiness is what counts, in the end, do what always makes you happy and good for you.